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Shut up.

Postby Jerlene » August 5th, 2012, 2:46 am

My niece has a problem with telling people shut up. She doesn't just tell her peers to shut up, she tells adults to shut up. Before you say she's just two, she is extremely advanced for her age and she knows exactly what she's saying. My brother will yell at her and spank her but she still says it, and not just for the sake of saying it. She knows exactly how to use the phrase.

So any ideas on how to get her to stop?

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Re: Shut up.

Postby MikePryor » August 5th, 2012, 6:05 am

If she is advanced, then she is ready to learn that there are consequences to what she says. Teach her that it is rude to tell others to shut up and stand firm.

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Re: Shut up.

Postby angie828 » August 5th, 2012, 7:23 pm

It is very rude for her to be telling people this but if she hears it at home then she does not know better. Tell her that it is not a nice word and that you will not tolerate it when you are around.

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Re: Shut up.

Postby Scott » October 6th, 2012, 12:11 am

No offense, but maybe it's because your brother spanks her that she acts up. Studies have consistently shown a strong correlation between corporal punishment and future bad behavior, and by isolating potential common causes are pretty convincingly leading to the conclusion of the former causing the latter.

Then again, she is just two. Even for an advanced two year old, she is probably just repeating what she has heard a lot. If the people she is around say shut up, she will say it. The easiest way to get her to stop is probably to stop saying it around her and intentionally use alternative phrases around her, like, "Shh, please be a little quieter."

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Re: Shut up.

Postby JessicaMSW » March 11th, 2013, 2:43 pm

Spanking is clearly not working...She is most likely doing it because there is a reaction and that's fun for her. kids like impacting on their environment. if others laugh or if you make a big fuss then of course she will do it again.
follow the format of giving a warning (or using the counting method) and then a time out with no emotional response to the behavior.
This must be tried a few times before giving up on this method...and the child should stay in time out (about 1 min per age, although for a 2 year old 1 minute is still a good punishment) and if not then she is to go back to time out and the time starts again. if she likes to challenge this may take a few times.
Its only when she knows you will not back down that the behavior will stop.
also make sure to take time to give a big emotional response when she does things well...i.e. tries a new skills, plays quietly or uses good words.

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