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The first solution that came to mind was to completely cut her off the internet. But then the trouble is, I wouldn't be able to convey the reason behind such a drastic decision. I don't think I'd be able to simply tell her flat out that it's because of suspicion that she's addicted to porn. I don't know why, but I'd feel embarrassed discussing it with her, for her sake I guess. So, I don't suppose cutting her off from the internet is the best way to deal with this. Besides, it does seem a little bit disrespectful to just assume that porn is what's keeping her online, and making decisions based on suspicions (not trust) is disrespectful.
Of course, it's never advisable to to be lax with our teenagers because this is when they need our guidance the most, so we must always make sure our choices are balanced and healthy for their well-being.
My solution: If she were my daughter, I would remove the computer from her room and place it somewhere like the living room or family room. That way, if she is addicted to porn, then she'd have very limited access to those kinds of websites now. Putting the computer somewhere accessible to anyone in the household would keep her from viewing bad content, yet still give her the fair freedom of getting to anything else she might need online (e.g. research, Facebook, and other wholesome online pages).
That is the only reasonable solution I could think of, I've racked my brain. It's not too harsh, but at the same time it's rightly firm and 90% porn-proof.
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Kids look at porn. They did it before the internet; they do it know. I don't think it's inherently that big of a deal. Watching porn is not the same as being addicted to porn. If a child is addicted to anything, they need help from experts. Otherwise, I'm not saying to encourage it, but I wouldn't put stopping them from secretly looking at porn as a priority; many children do a lot worse and a lot more dangerous things using the internet, such as posting or sending pictures of themselves, breaking laws, cyber-bullying or setting up dates with strangers. It might help to talk openly about sex to the children, to stave off their curiosity and make sure they get the right information rather than the rumors flying around the internet or the misleading portrayals of sex given by many types of porn.
You can install some sort of web nanny software on the computer as well that tries to block X-Rated websites. But the real solution is probably just for the parents to talk constructively to the child.
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